Sep-11-2010, 12:03 PM (UTC)
You're much more productive than me. I'm 21 and I don't foresee my earning my degree for at least another 3 years (let alone getting hired after I earn it.) And I HATED high school. Never like thinking about it, nope.
And yes I know how that goes. In childhood/adolescence, you're around the same people everyday, year after year. Then when you leave and go to university or out in the real world everything is so much harder and so much more remote than it was when you were a kid. It's a lot harder to make many lasting friendships since everyone has their own problems or pursuits to deal with, and most fellow classmates only show up in your life intermittently, if at all anymore after a class is over.
The whole deal about the extroverts who somehow make dozens of friends so easily...well there's a difference between close friends and friends to go party with. Just because someone has a lot of friends does not mean he or she is necessarily very close to all of them. They may even feel lonely even though they are gregarious and seem to know everyone because they may not have a closer relationship with someone.
So it's not really an isolated phenomenon-- most people know what you're feeling about this.
You're also making a much better effort than I am at trying to make new friends by joining clubs and mingling around. I make little to no effort to strike conversations, unless the conversation around me interests me and I feel I have something to add. Pretty much most of the new friends I made are really people one of my best friends introduced me to. So maybe that could be a way for you to make new friends, by hanging out as a group with people you know and people you don't know.
And yes I know how that goes. In childhood/adolescence, you're around the same people everyday, year after year. Then when you leave and go to university or out in the real world everything is so much harder and so much more remote than it was when you were a kid. It's a lot harder to make many lasting friendships since everyone has their own problems or pursuits to deal with, and most fellow classmates only show up in your life intermittently, if at all anymore after a class is over.
The whole deal about the extroverts who somehow make dozens of friends so easily...well there's a difference between close friends and friends to go party with. Just because someone has a lot of friends does not mean he or she is necessarily very close to all of them. They may even feel lonely even though they are gregarious and seem to know everyone because they may not have a closer relationship with someone.
So it's not really an isolated phenomenon-- most people know what you're feeling about this.
You're also making a much better effort than I am at trying to make new friends by joining clubs and mingling around. I make little to no effort to strike conversations, unless the conversation around me interests me and I feel I have something to add. Pretty much most of the new friends I made are really people one of my best friends introduced me to. So maybe that could be a way for you to make new friends, by hanging out as a group with people you know and people you don't know.
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